Friday, December 29, 2006

Heads You Win, Tails I Lose

Story 1:

The husband reflects on his married life - a life he and his wife have spent for the past 25 years of. A satisfying fulfilling life, with no complaints and no regrets. The wife is dead today. The husband tries to stitch his life again.

In the event he comes to know that his wife might not have ever loved him, maybe not even in the most sacred of the times, not even in the most passionate of the moments. That she had possibly loved another man all through.

Without being unfaithful.

Story 2:

The woman gets a call, early in the morning. She gets ready, quickly. Takes a cab and on the way reflects on the life she has had. A marriage with the person she loved. A marriage of priceless moments, unbelievable memories which could not sustain itself over time.

Where did it go wrong ? Why has she not quit it ? Even after years and years of contemplation, she could not attribute any reason for this. Something was amiss. Something. Something that she could not put her fingers on.

And all through those 25 years she has had only one support - her friend. Her best friend. And now, her friend is on his death-bed. And he wants to see her. For the last time.

She reaches the hospital. Goes inside to find the wife and is ushered in. The man looks at her and beckons her close to him. She sits down near him, hand-in-hand. The man says: "What would not I have given for this day?" And smiles. The same twinkling, coquettish smile. She smiles back. The man continues: "I just wanted you to know. You are the only one I loved. Ever."

Deep inside the woman, something happens. She comes out of the room, acknowledges the wife with a nod, leaves the hospital and on that very day files for divorce.

Which is more tragic ? Living with someone thinking that you are the one in your partner's life and coming to know later that you never mattered the way you thought or not living with one to whom you mattered more than you thought you did ?

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hats off - spiderman at his best; blessed are those who find true love and are fortunate to spend the life with them

SRK said...

I'd go for the first... live wid someone for long... if i luv her tht is... doesn't metter whether she reciprocates....

wht's the point of someone loving u if they don't spend their lives wid u??? I mean, the true test of love is when u r sick, and pissing in ur bed... is there someone who loves u enuf to clean ur crap???

Living wid a thought for 25 yrs doesn't help me

spiderman! said...

Anon:
I agree...
Srk:
I would go with neither !

R. Anand said...

unlike happiness, we can find tragedy wherever we look for it... there can be hundreds of instances like the stories in the post where people are unhappy...
what is the guarantee that the woman might have been happy with her best friend if she had married him? when she married her husband she did feel that he was his true love and not her best friend...
in the man's case, what is guarantee that he had loved his wife without even thinking about another woman? knowing men's mind he might have thought about a 100 other women, but it was probably his marriage that had saved him from being unfaithful, like in his wife's case...
it is the tendency of the human mind to believe that if they had waited a little longer, they would get a better product - right from cell phones to life partners... however relationships are successful only when the compromises are made as a way of life and not seen as a sacrifice. i am never in favor of impetuous decisions like the divorce or retrospection (only in this context).
maybe all problems can be solved if people could read each other's minds... then maybe you could propose to the person who thinks he/she likes you when you tune into his/her thoughts...
but then how many people can actually define what is true love?

R. Anand said...

and srk, i am sorry... but a nurse would clean your crap if you pay her enough... you don't need true love for it these days...

spiderman! said...

Ranga:

True...so very true !

SRK said...

had to reply to Monk...

a nurse wud clean crap for money... a prostitute wud hv sex for money...
in fact, there are few things tht money can't buy...

but, if someone loves u truly... he/she wud it with a sense of caring... not as a professional job...

J. Alfred Prufrock said...

Very profound.